Sharing a Butcher's Wisdom: Prime-Cut Advice for Father's Day

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Picture this: a family gathered around the table, listening to Dad’s advice. No, it’s not Father Knows Best or another bygone-era TV show. This scene was reality for Mary B. Lucas, a butcher’s daughter.


Mary’s father, John Bichelmeyer, a Kansas City butcher with an eighth-grade education and 10 children, always served up a little wit and wisdom along with ground beef and bacon to his clientele, friends and family.

Now Mary offers her father’s insights in her new book, aptly titled Lunchmeat & Life Lessons: Sharing a Butcher’s Wisdom. And if you need a last-minute Father’s Day Gift, there’s still time to grab it on

John came of age in a much simpler time, long before customer service departments or business management seminars. He gave away generous servings of what he called “comeback sauce,” a little added value to keep his customers returning to his butcher shop: Bichelmeyer Meats, still going strong in Kansas City, Kansas, after 60 years in business.

“My dad often said, ‘Remember to pour on the comeback sauce on everyone you meet,’ ” Mary says. “I’ve found that his advice has gotten me far in life.”

Lunchmeat & Life Lessons shares bite-size nuggets of commonsense wisdom that coincide with the tenets of nurturing your organic spirit:

  • Make a good first impression. Remember: The first hunk of meat you sell is yourself!
  • See the best in people. If you don’t like somebody, he/she won’t like you. 
  • Take control of your life. Be a person who makes things happen. 
  • Don’t be self-centered. When you’re all wrapped up in yourself, you make a damn small package. 
  • Be prepared. Don’t let go of one limb until you have a firm hold on another. 

“I earned my B.D.—which stands for Butcher’s Daughter—by listening to my father’s stories about how he achieved success in making deep connections with the people around him,” Mary says. “Lunch Meat & Life Lessons will empower others to do the same.”

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